There is much talk of the attachment relationship between mother and child. Rightly. Less discussed, the role of fathers in infancy. Is this wrong?
Professor psychology and early childhood specialist, Jean Le Camus, developed the idea through his research that all children aspire to create a bond with his mother ... with his father.
Recognizing the limitations of psychoanalytic theories that limit the action of the father in an "operation of separation" between mother and child, the work of Jean Le Camus suggest that early attachment relationship between father and child will greatly contribute to his psychological development. A reduction in the father's role and action separator requirements authoritarian pit dynamics support and commitment that should unite father and child. "The practice the authority of the father , in the sense of limitation rules and return limits, does is absolutely incompatible with the extra security, understanding and affection . One is tempted to add, "the contrary" the real authority of a father , and admits that a child respects, c ' is one that proceeds from the desire to grow (the man is then entered the stage of' generativity 'dear to Erikson), which also stems from the confidence placed in the potential the child who makes finally the practice of listening and dialogue .
When questioned, there is not so long ago, when fathers were to begin to intervene in the upbringing of children, it was not uncommon to hear "after the period mother ", ie after the period of infancy. The views have been évolués.Les scientists have also shown that babies are able to:
- vary the father of the mother at the age of 3 months
- better relational interaction within the family triad when fathers showed a good investment emotional and cognitive development.
"It is now clear established that a father sufficiently present in the care and the game becomes an attachment figure as well as the mother and people who are in the close relationship of the baby. The child usually prefer the "basic security" tongue, especially when it feels difficult (fatigue, illness, presence of foreign ...), but the famous criteria of attachment are the "protest at the separation "and" consolation at the meeting "are satisfied in the observations conducted in context paternal .
Thus Jean Le Camus urges fathers to" intervene "in rather in the education of their children before ... even their birth if possible ... It shows that their early involvement will have a clear influence on the socialization of the child in the Development of Communication (the child is forced to develop more quickly understandable language, the father without the benefit of the maternal instinct), and cognitive learning.
For each parent can play its role, Jean Le Camus stresses the need for reciprocity in confirmation roles. "It is clear that no one becomes a parent on the condition of being accepted and recognized by the other parent: in this sense, the mother "is the father in the same way also the father" is "the mother. But it is equally clear that being father is first accept and decide to be, ie to take responsibility and try to assume this responsibility. It is the philosopher Alain Etchegoyen writer who wrote recently: "I often think of an affirmation of Nietche" venerate motherhood, fatherhood is often a chance. " Today we can turn this completely random, it can be a necessity, a choice that I'm sure. It is both a opportunity and a requirement. It's much more difficult but infinitely positive '.
"I think also we can no longer defend the thesis of" single parenthood psychic original and need to prefer the thesis the biparentalité. The optimum child development and its balance can not live with a paternal role biphasic (spectator during the age of the mother, actor thereafter). It requires each parent is fully and immediately in her parental gendered: there is a "double presence early said the same Etchegoyen.
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